In my culture, food is love and even though I come from a very active family, food always took center stage. I’ve struggled with my weight since age 10 and although I was a healthy and athletic child, I still ended up on a long journey of yo-yo dieting. I was the classic gain 30 pounds, then lose 30 pounds girl.
For the next 20 years I went on just about every weight loss program available. I tried pills and potions, hours on end in the gym and boot camps galore, but nothing gave me the results I wanted or made me feel better. I tried fasting, those low-carb diets and I even tried to think myself thin (you know, mind over matter and all that jazz!).
It. Was. Exhausting.
Finally, when I turned 30 I gave up. I was tired, mad and sad all at once. I hit rock bottom and decided to embrace a life of being fat and happy. To celebrate my newfound fat & happiness, I ordered extra hot wings with a side of cheese fries, opened a beer and settled in for the winter in a pair of stretchy pants. I remember sitting there on the couch thinking, “this isn’t so bad, I can do this. I can be the one that elevates fat and happy to the next level – I can make this look good.”
This is what I told myself even while I secretly still hated my body.
I avoided mirrors and dreaded shopping, because trying on clothes made me feel ugly and ashamed of my body. I felt judged by strangers, but I was my biggest critic.
I was an accomplished businesswoman who tackled and conquered every challenge that came my way except when it came to my weight. It wasn’t just irritating; I was downright uncomfortable in my own skin.
Thankfully I’m very close with my family and husband who are my biggest fans and my support system. They provided nothing but encouragement and my bodybuilder brothers provided an excellent example for me to follow. For years, I attended their bodybuilding competitions where I sat with envy watching the female competitors. My brothers all along the way encouraged me, saying:
The last time I attended one of my brother’s competitions, I decided then and there that one day I would step on that stage. I wanted to feel as confident and as badass and strong as the female competitors. That day my quest for living a gorgeous life was born.
So there I was, an accomplished businesswoman who tackled and conquered every challenge that came my way except when it came to my weight. It wasn’t just irritating, I was downright uncomfortable in my own skin.
Thankfully I’m very close with my family who are my biggest fans and my support system. They provided nothing but encouragement and my bodybuilder brothers provided an excellent example for me to follow. For years I attended their bodybuilding competitions where I sat with envy watching the female competitors. My brothers all along the way encouraged me, saying:
“You should do this, you would be really good at this.”
The last time attended one of my brother’s competitions, I decided then and there that one day I would step on that stage. I wanted to feel as confident and strong as the female competitors, and there my quest to living a gorgeous life was born.
A week later my brother and I sat down and created a meal plan, he set me up with a trainer and I was off and running. Six months later I dropped 70 pounds and stepped on stage to compete in a bodybuilding competition and won. It was symbolic more than anything else because it proved I could do anything I set my mind on doing. You can too… Let’s Get Started!
Look, you may consider me an exception to the rule, but the truth is, I’m not any better than anyone else. I’m a regular person with a family to manage and tons of other responsibilities to juggle. I have my faults like everyone else. I talk too loud and curse way more than I’d willingly admit to my parents. Truly, I’ve made some epic mistakes because, like you, I’m human.
I’m not ashamed to celebrate my accomplishments and neither should you no matter how small they seem. I’ve helped found successful businesses, I have a degree from a top graduate school, and I’ve been in leadership positions for every job I have ever landed. In my previous career I was called a leader in my field and was even named to a Who’s Who list or two. My most treasured success story though, is how I turned my life around and love the way I feel about myself.
The point is, I know what it’s like to struggle with weight and feel out of place on your own skin. I also know what it takes to make changes that stick.
That’s why you want me in your corner.
It was a tough road getting where I wanted to be, but once I was 100% committed to reaching my goals, I was unstoppable.
Yes, I trained long and hard for months and sure I missed out on all the eat ‘til ya pop holidays, but I was determined to discover what I was truly made of and unleash my inner strength.
It wasn’t all pretty flowers. I assure you there were not any my body is a temple- Kumbaya moments. At times, it was grueling. There was even some throwing up involved, many aches and pains, and the occasional crying episode. The good news is, I found my inner badass and will never let her go.
I’m not saying that everyone should be a bodybuilder or look a certain way, but I am saying everyone should love the body they’re in. I am saying that it’s time to take control and claim the healthy gorgeous life you want.